Every so often we witness people get angry. We may even be the person who gets angry. Anger manifests itself in many way, from frustration that boils over, through to the darkest realms of hatred.
When it comes to the stage where you feel yourself start to get angry, if possible try to step back. Or at the very least make a mental note of the trigger point for how you are feeling in that very moment.
It is only when we start to understand and recognise the trigger points that we can start to process them and deal with the onslaught of emotions before they engulf us with fear, with irrationality, with a myriad of emotions that can be absolutely overwhelming. Ever heard of the expression ‘Red Mist’? That moment when people lose control because they are simply overcome with emotion that is often related to anger. A flow of emotions that can be so powerful the person may not be responsible for their actions or words, never mind remember what actually happened in those moments.
The acknowledgment of what grinds our gears, can be for first and biggest step in dealing with it. For me, if I find myself in a situation where I find that I am becoming increasingly uncomfortable and feel my tension building, I initially go very quiet. I use this as a mechanism to buy myself time. To process the situation and find a way through/or out of what’s going on.
When you find this, being silent is almost like a split second meditation, because you can process what you are going to say next, and do so with a level tone. It’s no surprise that most people when they get angry get loud and often abusive. This will get you nowhere, not then, not ever.
Take that moment to reason it out. If there is someone who is making it impossible to do so, then leave them to it. Never try and win an argument with an idiot - they will only drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
It’s the equivalent of putting your head in a toaster and waiting for it to pop up. You’ll just be burnt by it.
What is anger?
Anger is simply emotions arising from a situation beyond our control - or the punishment we give ourselves for someone else’s mistake...
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